I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me, or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me. – Unknown
If you have read Darned Apostrophe’s t’s Inferno, then you will see that a positive, can do attitude is hugely important to progress of any kind, but of equal importance is the need to remove destructive habits if you are to live happily and grow successfully.
And here I do emphasise the destructive. I know other habits can form barriers to whatever you wish to do but it is removal of the more pernicious ones that are absolutely time critical to your well-being.
My destructive habit was food, cream cakes in particular – I would lounge on the sofa stuffing them down, which made me so miserable that in order to make myself feel better I stuffed down even more. This would make me feel better for about as long as the cake lasted before I felt even more awful and tried to remedy my misery with yet another load of cake – talk about a vicious cycle! The cake consumption got so bad that I practically stuffed myself into a hellish torpor.
You only have to replace cream cakes with whatever your particular proclivity happens to be – the results are pretty much the same as you descend into your own fixation fed inferno –
we can often find ourselves in this transitional state – no firm plans, not really up to making any, future looks bleak and the easiest option is often the one we head to – eat or drink some more, ten more minutes in bed, one more programme on the TV …
We naturally gravitate towards the thing that gives us the quick fix, the short-term wants that take us away from our daily reality.
The brief high of the quick fix is never enough, we want more, and more …
And so we indulge – another mouthful of food, another drink, 10 more minutes in bed turns into 20, 30 …., the quick sit down on the sofa stretches to an entire evening …
Then comes the hangover, recriminations – why didn’t I just …?
Followed by the excuses, that little voice telling us that it’s okay to do this, we don’t care, everything is fine …
You could kick yourself because you hate yourself, you are filled with frustration and self-loathing …
The cover up, the excuses – it’s not my fault, it isn’t all bad, I blame …
You’ve destroyed your faith in yourself, you are useless, it feels so comfortable – none of those nasty challenges to upset the apple cart … so carry on as before
Sound familiar? Depressing isn’t it?
If you acknowledge this then you can also acknowledge that you need to do something about it. This isn’t about your bad habit(s) – it’s about the cycle you need to break.
The good news is that you don’t have to do it alone and there is heaps of help out there, so take this moment to stop, to think and then to find that which inspires you to change so you can start to leave it behind you …