We can change our lives. We can do, have, and be exactly what we wish. – Tony Robbins
Yeah, I know, a dream list in disguise? It may sound the same as a dream list, but this little technique is a really good way for you to begin the process of getting to the heart of what subconsciously you know is wrong with your life, what you absolutely desire and why you know that to be so.
But it does take a bit of work, a leap of faith and the ability to hang on in there.
The idea is to write down 100 wishes (not one more, and not one less, mind!) in one sitting of 30 minutes. The short timescale is to give you a sense of urgency and to prevent you pondering your responses to any great degree – or you can panic like mad when you are ten minutes in and are stuck at number four …
To get started, set aside a time you will not be disturbed and write. If you are anything like most of us, then you will probably find that the first fifteen or twenty flow quickly before the slow down – this is perfectly normal. Just don’t stop and don’t judge what you are writing – it’s coming out for a reason.
Over the next part you are likely to begin to repeat yourself in various guises but, again, keep going – repetition is quite normal and will highlight interconnected thoughts. The very last stage of your list, maybe the last twenty or so, could well be extremely difficult but, you’ve guessed it, keep writing – even if it seems utter rubbish!
When you have finished, put it away. Don’t be tempted to fret or ponder over it, just leave it for a few days, after which set yourself some quiet time, so you can start to look at your wishes.
Which, in all likelihood, could be the embarrassing bit because there may well be things on there that you can’t believe you have written – and as I’ve said here one of mine was to paint like Michelangelo!
To start the process of sifting and sorting your list, get a notebook and allocate a separate page for each wish, or obviously connected wishes. Once you have done this, start scribbling down your first thoughts and then go back as and when more come to you. It’s not something to be completed quickly and success really depends on subjecting what you have written to as full an analysis as possible. The more you go back and forth, the more associations you will find with the objective, of course, to focus solely on why and not what you have written.
Some will appear to be a load of old tat and completely meaningless, but as you delve and probe you will arrive at a few profound realisations, among which could well be that what you thought you wanted and what you now know you desire are certainly not one and the same.
I should also add that it can be a bit depressing, because as you start to tear things apart you could well discover that something you really thought was embedded in your heart isn’t so when you look at it in the cold light of day.
It is very easy to have a wish to, say, be a published author but you need to ask yourself whether it is just the idea you are so love with rather than the process that is actually involved – they really are very different – which may sound like a case of stating the obvious but one which some of us try and ignore!
As with any technique, a word of caution – if it doesn’t work for you then it is not the fault of the technique or yours – we all take to things in different ways, but I do believe that if you give this a real go then your time will most certainly not be wasted.
I didn’t particularly like questioning the dreams I held dear, but it has saved me a lot of time in the long run. I still have my original wish list, and the master list I use today started entirely from the 100 wishes exercise.
As for Michelangelo – well I still have difficulty discerning one end of a paintbrush from another – I did, however, realise that I wasn’t so much inspired by the act of painting or sculpting but more by his prodigious talent, artistic versatility and passion. Of course, I have no illusions that I could ever be so great, but I certainly wanted to try, and now understand that the very best way to a creative life is to delve into areas that at first may not hold much promise, or to hunt out solutions even in the strangest of places.
Maybe the teensiest bit like the master himself then!
I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. – Michelangelo